We began our discussions with a simple story. It is of the two 'wolves' that live inside each of us. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. The wolf that wins is the one you feed.
As we enter into a new year, I will be discussing each of these attributes in more detail. For example, such things as forgiveness and gratitude hold amazing power for us. They each deserve their own chapter.
We'll begin with one of the characteristics of the bad 'wolf', anger. We can see anger acted out in a baby, or in a senior, or at any age in between. We can see it in humans, but also in the animal kingdom. Physically, anger releases adrenaline, which can give us a boost of strength and physical power for a short while. Although there are a few times when anger is good, such as if someone is trying to harm your child, it is generally not a good emotion to give into. We can obtain adrenaline through more positive ways. We can also become 'fierce' in a conflict situation, without being overcome with anger. Anger is of the ego, it is a reaction of 'Oh ya?', 'You Think So?' or 'How dare you?'. As most of the characteristics of the ego, it is not something we choose, but something we fall under. It overcomes us. We lose control, as the bad wolf takes over. So what can we do?
The best course of action is simply to know that it is only your ego, or only the bad wolf. Anger is a false you, taking over the real you. Once you see this, it will instantly lose much of its power. The next time you are overcome with anger, try to step back for a moment and tell youself, 'This is not me, it is merely my ego acting out'. This takes the wind out of the ego, and in this case, out of your anger. You see it for the silly reaction it truly is, weak and foolish. The authentic you underneath can then act with ferocity if necessary, or with calm resolve. Perhaps your ego gives you anger because your lifestyle lacks physical activity. Becoming more active may take some of the wind out of anger's sails too, if it is being brought on by a lack of energy release. So go for walks instead and learn to appreciate your surroundings. Remember that your ego is only your learned reactions to things. It is not who you are, it never was and it never will be. Anger is merely a learned reaction that is a part of your ego - temporary and weak. Remember you are an eternal being. When you recognize anger as a mere expression of a weak ego - the bad wolf - your authentic self will rise to the surface and display it's calm resolve instead.